SPEAKER - AUTHOR - COACH
The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life
Research has increasingly shown that nothing affects our long-term health and happiness as much as the quality of the relationships we have. From family and friends to partners and colleagues, our relationships have a profound impact on our psychological, physical and spiritual well-being.
Codependency and People-Pleasing stand in the way of what you long for in life
Suffering from codependency and people-pleasing is like living in a glass dome. There is a constant barrier between you and other people, and over time, you begin to believe that guilt, responsibility for others, and endless compromises are part of being in a relationship. This has been your reality for as long as you can remember. From this place, it becomes impossible to create deep, healthy relationships with others. Relationships always come at your expense, and it is a high price to pay for something that doesn’t even bring you deep satisfaction.
But it’s not only our human relationships that suffer. That glass dome also separates you from something much larger—the deep connection to life itself and the divine experience of being human. You lose touch with the very essence of what it means to truly live and love, and you lose a significant part of life’s magic.
I have spent years stripping away the patterns of codependency and people-pleasing that have stood in the way of the life I want to live. What didn’t work was never anyone else’s fault, as I had long convinced myself. It was the glass dome that I had long become accustomed to living in.
This work has involved vulnerably examining my own patterns, everything from difficulties in feeling and taking care of my own needs, setting boundaries, showing vulnerability, and communicating in a way that deepens and expands love and life. For a long time, I thought I was a hopeless case—but such things don’t exist.
We have the opportunity to rewrite our script, to redefine what it means to create healthier, more meaningful relationships—and with that, a happier and more meaningful life. But this is not something that magically appears in our lives—it’s something we create, and it requires deep self-leadership, courage, and discipline.
When you are ready to do what it takes—I am here to guide you.
CHRIS FROM THE NETHERLANDS